Elysium, Bondassage® and Kink Experiences by N

It had been many years since I had been involved with a dominant woman, and I wanted to experience it again. Due to the nature of my job, trying to look through personals today isn’t really a great idea for privacy. So I decided to look at a pro domme for the first time. I had been looking for many months, and stumbled onto Mistress Cassy’s profile on the Bondassage website. What drew me to her was not her gorgeous body, but her experience in a lot of different areas that resonated with me and what I was looking for.

She had the background of a lifestyle mistress, a medical professional, a trainer, a masseuse, and was into sensual experiences. One other thing I found particular interesting was her interest in psychology for intended effects. She can be both quite intimidating and seductively charming almost simultaneously in an effortless fashion. I would not want to lump myself in with a typical type of person who seeks these services, as I was looking for deep mental and physical connections that are more intimate to me than can easily be described here. I was not looking for a pickup flogging session at a club with a random domme. I was not looking for “sex”. I wanted an intense experience where I was able to find serenity and peace with intense mental participation. And that is exactly what I got. Beyond what I had hoped for.

Her prices are high, but it is also why I selected her. She has her pick of clientele, and she chooses high quality people who understand that her services are not to just flog someone – but to study you, understand you, and give you what you need more than you can tell her what you need. I believe this is her true gift in life where she was able to merge a lot of her backgrounds into a life-altering experience that will have me coming back time and time again.

My experiences have been with Elysium, Bondassage, and S&M. Everything I have experienced so far has really opened my eyes more to this method of exploring my BDSM self. I am not a “lifestyle submissive”, but I want to escape the pressures of life at times and entrust myself to a beautiful woman who knows how to take your mental pain and anguish away and settle your mind. With the S&M, the lighting was such that as I walked out the door, I felt surrender overtake me without even realizing it was happening until a few minutes later. It was exhilarating. I spent a good deal of time talking to her first, as I wanted some time to settle down. She is so beautiful to look at, it can take your breath away. And then listening to her talk about her craft is like listening to a carpenter with 30 years of experience telling you the best way to build a home. The more she talks – the more she can resonate with just about anyone who has experience with the lifestyle.

I am a patron of the arts. I admire music and the arts. And to experience this – is almost to experience a living art in motion. The way she moves. The skill of her preparation. How she can disarm you. The psychology of everything made me very uneasy – and that allowed me to then realize that I cannot control the environment and that began my move towards mental surrender. It took two sessions and some discussion in between – but I started to feel the warm blanket of surrender just a few minutes into the second session. I was trapped in the web, and I did not want to fight it. I wanted her to toy with me to satisfy her perversions, and she did not disappoint.

The S&M – I was in subspace before I ever got near the bench. I looked into her eyes, and a warm calm went over me – that I was safe with her, and I was about to experience bliss. I was floating within seconds, and she expertly took me up and brought me down many times – and the strikes were like the perfect seasoning on a ribeye. Hard enough to keep me in the present, pleasurable to touch every one of my senses, and at times intense enough to get me struggling in my bonds without taking me too far. She knew how to read me.

Her play space is really nice, and pretty easy to reach. I was nervous about how to get to her area in Philly with my vehicle, but it was right off of major roads and easy to get to.

My goals with Mistress Cassy may not be what most people have as their goals. I sought intimacy, connection, closeness, kink, S&M, psychological manipulation, massage, exploration of a million things, and to FEEL what it is like to be under her control for a period of time. She gave me everything of herself – and mentally I had experienced life altering experiences that I will replay hundreds of times over again and again in my mind.

As I mentioned, I am a patron of the arts. She is an artist with her craft, and I highly admire her skills and professionalism in how she does her job. By the end of the second session, I became thoroughly convinced that this type of arrangement can work well for me in the future.